If your partner filed for a divorce or brought it up in a conversation, chances are that there are other reasons besides the reasons you might think for wanting one. Here are the top 10 reasons why people divorce according to our research.
Surprisingly, quite a lot of people who want a divorce want it because they feel that they’ve become too much like their partner, or they’ve lost their independence. Being a team is what healthy marriages are made of, but an entirely co-dependent relationship is certainly not healthy in the long run.
Lack of Intimacy
Intimacy doesn’t always have to be physical, but if there’s no longer a feeling of romance, intimacy, or closeness, it is understandable that one party or both will want to find that with someone else. If you’re about to hire a private investigator, because you feel your spouse might be cheating, you might want to look at the reasons behind that feeling before making the call. Lack of intimacy is often top of that list.
Getting Married for the Wrong Reasons
Some people marry because they’ve been pressured into it for various reasons, whether it be family, age or even existing children. Some marry because they thought that they can change the other person once they’ve got the ring on their finger. Being together for the wrong reason(s) can get old real fast, hence, the marriage possibly ending in divorce.
Getting Mixed Up with the Labels
Sometimes two people are together not because they want to, but because they’ve been accustomed to being each other’s significant other even though they’ve grown apart. Once they realize this, then it’s time to say goodbye.
There are also instances when someone forgets who they are once married. They lose touch with friends and their interests outside of marriage. This creates a volatile situation where one has no room for growth and will want to head for the hills once the same party has come to his or her senses.
Clashing Priorities and Interests
While opposites attract, a successful marriage requires that both parties have a mutual interest and have aligned life goals. If one person wants a baby within a year and the other is dead set on not having any children, then the couple will simply grow farther and farther apart the more they realize how incompatible they are.
Poor Conflict Resolution
A good relationship is a give and take one where each party involved feels appreciated, respected, and heard. When disagreements arise and each one wants to ‘win’ instead of compromising, then it can get emotionally draining over time. When this happens, it’s only a matter of when one party will snap and it will be definitely divorce-ville for the couple.
Not Having a Clear Idea of Married Life
Marriage means you’ll be sharing more than your bed with another person. You’ll be sharing life goals, free time, children, finances, and even food. What will happen when these things were not discussed prior to marriage? Someone is bound to get disappointed.
When you expect someone to be a certain way thinking you can mould them to be your perfect partner once the marriage contract has been signed, you’re setting yourself up for a disaster. This can build up resentment and can lead to fights, one party cheating, or both parties simply giving up and going for a divorce.
Lack of Touch
Do you know that one common reason for cheating is simply wanting some physical contact? Couples who lack intimacy end up getting divorced because they feel like they’re total strangers to each other.
Lack of compatibility with regards to how money will be spent, how much will be saved, and how it will be handled is a leading cause of divorce. No surprises that someone who has a sound financial mind may not want to be with someone who wants to live like royalty for a day after every payday.